 This is what an unemployed person looks like most of the time, that's not really something you want to be a part of. There's no easy part about making any relationship work. Hollywood would like us to believe that it's just a series of witty conversations, romantic outings and sunshine coming out of everybody's ass. As anybody who has ever been in any relationship will say, it's not exactly like that, and something as simple as finances can decimate a couple. To me, relationships are like a big balancing act, everybody has to put in a fair share to make it work, but once you have one person that feels like they're putting in way more effort than the other you're going to have an implosion that resembles a neutron star.
In my personal opinion you shouldn't date somebody who's unemployed. It might get better from there, but for at least a little while it's going to create a good amount of stress on everybody. That's not something you want to put yourself through coming out of the gate and you may end up resenting somebody you might have really liked at another point in their life. If you're already in a relationship and your significant other loses their job you obviously don't want to be an asshole and break up with them, they need your support. But if you know somebody is unemployed I would suggest waiting until they're back on their feet before moving things along with them unless you're completely clear on what you're getting into.
TL;DR If you're thinking about dating somebody who doesn't have a job I would suggest against it.
Posted by Atkins under Guy's Perspective
It looks like he's interested but he just wants to pull his eyelashes out.
I hear from my friends who are girls all the time that they went on a date with a guy who they thought liked them, but suddenly just stopped talking to them altogether. Then they're wondering if it's something that they did when I know for a fact that it's 100 percent something that they did. If a guy is taking you out on a date he has already put some thought into it and took the time to actually take you out, so for him to stop talking to you means you most likely had to have done something.
For me there's a long list of reason while I'll stop talking to a girl after the first date. Every guy's different and certain things will set off an alarm in his head, but for me I have a few at the top of my list that will cause me to raise an eyebrow. Some of them are big like having poor manners or talking about an ex-boyfriend, but most of them are small and things others probably wouldn't notice. The point is that the odds are you won't be able to tell what exactly is going to make the guy you're on a date with suddenly decide he doesn't like you, but you did something. I know that seems really shitty but it's the honest truth, that's why I say don't get your hopes about somebody until you've been on a few dates with them.
TL;DR There's no real way to tell why a guy stopped talking to you after the first date but odds are it's something you did, so suck it up and try again.
Posted by Atkins under Guy's Perspective
I doubt you'll find many guys cleaning windows.
From what the internet has told me, women are clean, men are dirty, blah blah blah. I've had the privilege of living with both men and women so I can tell you that's not entirely true. The concept of cleanliness comes down to the individual but there are some sweeping generalizations I can make.
Men (and this is going to sound surprising) have from my experience kept their living spaces much cleaner than women from an overall standpoint. While we may not keep everything dusted all the time or wiped down, we can keep our things organized and in their place. In general we're not super clean but our living space is livable and that's good enough. "Good enough" should be the term you remember when thinking about how guys clean things.
Women on the other hand are either at one end of the spectrum or the other. I've known girls who keep their house immaculate and some that are downright slobs. There are of course some in the middle, but the one thing I can attest to is the bathroom is always a shit show. Can somebody explain to me why girls can't ever keep the bathroom clean? There's always shit everywhere. It might just be because I only need about three things in the bathroom but that doesn't explain why everything always looks wet.
The definition of clean will vary from person to person but for the most part guys keep their place livable while women are all over the map. Also this is what I've experienced in my life, if you disagree please just put it in the comments. Don't write me an email detailing why I'm an idiot, I get enough of those already.
TL;DR Most people can keep their living space livable but women need to get a grip on the bathroom.
Posted by Atkins under Guy's Perspective
If you text like this I hate you.
Texting has taken over as the main means of communication nowadays and there's a lot of judging going on depending on what you write. If you can't spell or use proper grammar women think you're an idiot, so if you can't write worth shit good luck to you. Not to mention that it's unbelievably easy to misread tone in a text message, so anything sarcastic can come off as you being the world's biggest asshole. You need to get used to it otherwise you lose touch with everybody.
When it comes to women I don't need perfect syntax and grammar in every text as long as I can get the gist, but if you text like an idiot with extra letters and in shorthand when it's not necessary I'm not going to take you seriously. I also only like to be texted by girls if it's for something that they would have called me for. I like to save all extended conversations for face-to-face, so if you try to carry on a conversation about my political views I'm going to straight out ignore you. Texting should be used for things like plans, updates or directions, not why you think we're not alone in the universe. Obviously there are exceptions for certain people but this goes for the majority.
TL;DR Texting should be used sporadically, with proper grammar and spelling.
Posted by Atkins under Guy's Perspective
If you're waking up like this more often than not you may want to change up your lifestyle.
I think it's a common perception that men will sow their wild oats pretty much anywhere they damn well please while women are expected to have their goods under lock and key if they're not in a relationship. A bit unfair? Probably, but I personally don't see a problem with a one night stand every now and again. Not everybody wants to date or be in a relationship but people have urges, and those urges need to be filled somehow. After all, masturbating while choking yourself can be dangerous sometimes if you don't have a spotter.
There is a tipping point though. Everybody has different views on what they think makes a person a whore, but at some point you are a whore if you're sleeping with everybody. I like to think of women like public bathrooms, I know I'm not the first person there but I like to pretend that I am. That's why I just simply never ask a girl how many guys she's been with, because any answer more than one is going to bother me. But for women who need something to get through the night I don't judge, I don't see who it's hurting. It's just important for people to know that at some point you might have to reveal your magic number and if it's in the thousands people might think less of you.
TL;DR One night stands aren't a bad thing unless you're having them every night.
Posted by Atkins under Guy's Perspective
So I came across an article on Yahoo! today about vintage ads that were encouraging women to put on weight in order to gain some sex appeal for the men. I can appreciate any vintage ad like anybody else, especially the ones about keeping a woman in her place or buying a toy for your kid with real uranium, but sometimes people take them a little too seriously. My favorite is always when people proclaim in the comments that bigger women are beautiful and women shouldn't care what anybody thinks about them and to eat everything in sight. I'm going to break it down for women right now so nobody's confused anymore. This isn't the 70s and trends change. Any guy is going to like a woman who's in shape and has a nice body. If you'll notice, that doesn't include overly thin women. That means there is some give-and-take on what your weight can be while still being attractive. Not to mention that not every guy is the same and some like their cucumbers better pickled. Telling a woman not to care what others think and eat whatever she wants though is like trying to create a cat lady. I diet and go to the gym, there's no reason you can't too, stop being so damn lazy and making up excuses. Here's the easiest way to gauge what you should look like. How many guys hit on you when you go out? When that number goes up you're probably on the right track. Then add in how well you diet multiplied by your fitness routines, divide how many times you pass out because you starve yourself and finally cut off a finger every time you eat like a slob then complain about being overweight while simultaneously making cracks about those "thin bitches." If you don't have any fingers left then you're just a crabby woman who can't control her eating habits. TL;DR The most attractive women are the ones who look the most normal and in shape. Posted by Atkins under Guy's Perspective
 If she looks like this when she wakes up she may or may not be a hooker. Something I was told I needed to write about was something that I wasn't really sure that happened. I always had my suspicions but I was never positive because I have trouble waking up in the morning. I've been informed that it's common practice for a girl who has a guy sleep over to wake up early in the morning, put makeup on and get ready for the day, then lay back down in bed, pretending she woke up like that. The sun comes through the window, shines on her face and you believe that you have a model in your bed.
I'm on the fence with how I feel about this. On the one hand I don't like the idea of being swindled by a woman the second I wake up, on the other she's already dolled up. Besides the plus side with this knowledge is that since she's already awake and only pretending to wake up means that she's primed and ready for morning coitus, immediately followed by her cooking breakfast. So I guess you have to take the bad with the good. Sure it's not the real her you're waking up to, she might actually be a troll when she wakes up without makeup, but you get a girl who's looking her best, sex and breakfast. You can't beat that.
TL;DR Girls who put on makeup first thing in the morning before a guy wakes up is a girl who's ready to start her day early.
Posted by Atkins under Guy's Perspective
 Playing hard to get should never look like this. I'm fairly positive that women play hard to get every opportunity they can. After all men are borderline animals and every animal loves the thrill of the hunt. I'm not going to lie, it gets every guy going, but some women are just flat out bad at it. I try not to blame them because odds are they probably just got horrible advice from one of their friends (women are terrible at giving advice on men, don't ask them for it) but at some point you have to be able to figure out what you're doing.
Here's a rule of thumb for playing hard to get, there should be a mutual understanding that you two are interested in each other. Men aren't smart and we don't pick up on subtle cues, so if I go up to you and ask you out and you beat around the bush to be cute I'm going to assume you're not interested. Playing hard to get should be more along the lines of setting the pace, not turning a switch on and off. You would think this wouldn't have to be explained but publications like Cosmopolitan consistently give women terrible advice.
TL;DR If you want to play hard to get make sure the guy actually knows you're interested first.
Posted by Atkins under Guy's Perspective
Every time you wear a man purse this is exactly what you look like.
This has been something that I've wondered about for a while because I still see them around. Men wearing purses that were clearly made for butch women. I'm the type of guy who just shoves everything in his pockets because that's where everything goes, but sometimes you can't fit everything in there (like an industrial size bottle of Plan B, they won't end up in omelets on their own). But that's a problem women have, not having enough room for their things, because a lot of the time they don't have pockets. This is not acceptable for men.
If you're a man and you need something extra to put your things in you bring a damn briefcase. If you're not going somewhere formal enough for a briefcase you bring a backpack. If you don't want to bring a backpack because it's so informal stop bringing so much shit with you that you need extra bags. You look ridiculous and you're slowly turning into a woman. You might argue that you're not but I can see your vagina from here. Others will argue that it's fashionable, and while that may be true it doesn't make you any less feminine. Take your purse off and go tear down a tree with your bare hands Nancy.
TL;DR Men shouldn't wear purses for any reason.
Posted by Atkins under Guy's Perspective
This is a lie, this never happens.
Something I've learned from having conversations with women is that they love a guy with confidence. They all want a man who's debonair with an extensive vocabulary to come and sweep them off their feet. It's my belief that they're all like this because their friends are terrible people and tell them they deserve this. I'm here to tell you that only about 5% of the male population (probably less) is actually that charming; the rest are either shy, awkward or downright creepy. There's a reason every guy in romance comedies are so suave, they're reading from a script.
Normal guys on the other hand have to face the daunting task of talking to a new woman they've never met who will most likely shut them down because she's a bitch. This takes a toll on most guys and only makes the problem worse. I'd like to think that I'm charming but I'm also not boyfriend material, so that's pretty much what you're dealing with when you finally find the guy you were hoping for. Somebody who has talked to so many girls in his life that he has the perfect answer to everything, because he's heard it all before. I'm also the type of guy who will stop talking to you because you decided not to wear makeup one day.
So your realistic options are to stop staring at guys and blaming them for not initiating a conversation and go up and talk to them. Or at the very least acknowledge the guy who seems a bit nervous or may be a bit awkward when he comes up to you. Odds are they're not like that all the time and you're just intimidating. Don't blame it on us, blame it on years of being shut down by girls who aren't even good looking enough for that type of self respect.
TL;DR Instead of blaming guys for not talking to you either go up and talk to them or stop shutting down every guy who doesn't fit your perfect man mold.
Posted by Atkins under Guy's Perspective
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